My Husband Hates me

My husband has done nothing but lie to me since the first day I met him.  I put all that aside to try to have some type of relationship with him and then we got married.  Three months afteer we got married our marriage went to shit!! I didnt know what was going on at the time almost a year into our marriage Jan. 3, 2011 I found a note in our vehicle from this women saying that they were together durring thanksgiving and xmas... There was even pictures proving it this whole year our marriage has taken a dive he now claims there was nothing that went on but I do not believe it at all... Now hes trying to get rid of my best friend any way he can n to top it off once again i went to visit my family and I found out really bad news about my mother and he only talked about it for 5 minutes at the most and then he told me he met this women on a social site and that he was going to meet her n he didnt care if it hurt me or how i felt about it at all.  He agreed to go to marriage counseling and no he will not so im to the point where im sayin fuck it but it hurts to the soul cuz i gave this man everything and juss to get shit on in the end im so so tired... Idk wat to do